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Instead of giving me confidence and fruitful life experience, the teenage dating culture tore me down, stunted my understanding of real commitment and love, and trapped me in a pattern of superficial people pleasing.
When I began dating my husband, I was still influenced by those unhealthy patterns and needed time to heal.
Therefore, I keep in touch with what is current among today's youth.
I had to learn how to relate to him in a healthy and Christ-centered way and it was a painful but fruitful period of intense personal growth.
Once we were married, the graces of the sacrament blew the doors of grace and freedom wide open. I have a high opinion of many of these youngsters but I also know the weakness of youth and the emptiness of our cultural dating practices.
Now that I am the mother of a teenage boy, I often hear about his friends who are “in a relationship” with young gals. As my firstborn son inches closer to driving age, I admit to thinking: My word, what idiot decided that a 15-year old was even remotely mature enough to handle a vehicle in populated areas? Does that really honor the dignity of the object of affection?
Poor judgment with a vehicle can inconvenience, injure, or kill people; however, poor judgment in a relationship can wound the very soul. As much as I honor his good nature and maturity, I recognize that permitting him to date would be like encouraging him to text and drive… Fortunately for me, he shares his parents’ belief that modern dating does not honor the purpose of Christian courtship…which is to prepare for marriage. If the greatest relationships are rooted in love and service to Christ, exclusive dating according to modern trends is not necessary to build that kind of rock solid foundation.
Our relationship developed differently than the others because he was older, more mature, and deeply rooted in his Catholic faith and love of Jesus Christ.