Dating and marriage without intimacy
They’re settling for less than God intended and less than he made possible by sending his Son to rescue and repurpose our lives, including our love-lives, for something more. And a Christian union can only be found through Christian dating.
Girls, stop expecting guys to make any formal attempt at winning your affections.
Exclusivity and intentionality are ancient rituals, things of the past, and misplaced hopes. It’s not that this new line of thinking is necessarily untrue today, or that it’s not the current and corrupt trend of our culture. One of our most precious pursuits, that of a life-long partner for all of life, is tragically being relegated to tweets, texts, and Facebook pokes, to ambiguous flirtation and fooling around. Therefore, only he can prescribe the purpose, parameters, and means of our marriages.
His new book, "Sex, God, and the Single Life," explains how individuals should begin to build the framework for sex in a God-honoring way while they are still single by understanding God's true purpose for sex.
He notes that sex is not about fulfilling selfish desires but about serving, sacrificing individual needs and helping the other person get closer to God."God gave us sex to serve not to abuse but a lot of times in our society, sex is an object to exploit an individual and that same mindset oftentimes transitions into marriage from your single life," said Baoku.
Sadly, my immature and unhealthy desires predictably did much more harm than good. Maybe dating has been hard for you, too, for these reasons or others. It’s enough to leave you like an 8-year-old, asking, “Mom, where do weddings come from?